Boundary: a line that marks the limits of an area; a dividing line. When we think about personal boundaries, these are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships whether personal or professional. You will burn out and drive yourself crazy if you say yes to everything and try to be everything for everyone. Setting boundaries does not mean that you have to be mean to others. It simply means that you are standing up for what you will and will not tolerate and asking that others respect that decision. With that said, it sounds easier than it is. By setting boundaries, you will not only teach others how to treat you but also reduce stress and have a better work-life balance.
Here are some examples of setting boundaries. Practice makes improvement.
- Telling people respectfully that you do not like how they are talking to you
- Taking the time to think about committing to something before immediately saying yes
- Not discussing other people’s personal issues/gossiping or discussing topics you are not ready to discuss
- Letting others know that you need a little space to think about something that upsets you
- Informing others that you do not take phone calls or respond to emails/texts after a specific time
- Not overeating and watching how much time you spend on social media
What else would you add to this list of boundaries?