I am sure you heard of the 5 love languages. I have read everyone from the regular version, to the military version, to the teenage version. Did you know you can turn those same love languages into Self-Love Languages?
Self-love is a regard for one’s own well-being and happiness. Pretty much the act of loving and taking care of yourself. You cannot pour into an empty cup. You cannot take care of someone else if you are constantly exhausted, worn down, and running on E. Society has somehow turned the thought of taking care of yourself or putting yourself first into being a narcissist. I could not disagree more. It is not selfish to take care of yourself.
As I looked at the list below, I found some areas where I did well and needed a little work. When I talk about taking care of yourself, I do not mean spending thousands of dollars on bags, shoes, jewelry, hair, etc. I mean, if that is your thing, then great. I am talking about doing something for yourself. It can be as simple as giving yourself a pedicure or asking your spouse to watch the kids while you go on a 30-minute walk to clear your mind and zone out to music. It could even be choosing not to eat that extra serving because you are working on your health and fitness goals.
Below are the 5 Self-Love Languages. Which one is your love language, and which one could you work on?
Quality Time (scheduling some uninterrupted alone time to nurture your being)
- Rest, recovery, and sleep
- Reading a book or watching your favorite show
- Reading and writing in a daily devotional
- Engaging in your creative passion (knitting or crafting)
Words of Affirmation (positive self-talk, gratitude towards yourself, and empowering affirmations)
- Writing in a journal
- Speaking kind to yourself
- Making a list of your strengths and accomplishments
- Speaking your future or goals into existence
Physical Touch (honoring your body by doing things that make it better or feel good)
- Exercise, physical movement
- Massage or spa day
- Warm bath or shower
- Skin care and grooming
- Inexpensive pampering
Acts of Service (doing tasks that need to be completed or doing things that you’ve been neglecting)
- Cleaning your home
- Scheduling, planning, or organizing
- Preparing healthy meals
- Making your bed every morning
Receiving Gifts (treating yourself or creating gifts for yourself that spark joy)
- Going on a well-deserved trip
- Spending money on a hobby you enjoy
- Investing in your knowledge
- Using your hobbies to create income
- Shopping for inexpensive things you love
No matter your Self-Love Language, I challenge you to choose a few in each area to better yourself. Remember, self-love equals self-care, and it is NOT selfish to take care of yourself. Put yourself on the top of your to-do list every day, and the rest will fall into place.